So, something happened, and there is now either a criminal protection order or a civil protection order that mandates you have no contact with the opposing party or alleged victim of a criminal charge. You know you are not allowed to contact him or her. But then you receive that text message. It’s innocent enough. The text asks something like “did you remember to mail the check for the utilities?” Or it says that she’s “really, really sorry, can we just talk about it?” And the temptation begins. You know you are not allowed to contact her—the judge said so. But, she contacted you first. It’s okay to just respond as long as you didn’t initiate the contact, right? Wrong.
The above scenario is one we see often in our practice. The message might seem legitimate, earnestly requesting information that your significant other needs. Or it might seem like an attempt to reconcile. Or it might be some nasty and hurtful comment. Truthfully, it doesn’t matter what it is. You cannot respond. Avoid the urge. Take a cold shower. Leave your phone at home and take a walk around the neighborhood. Wash your car while singing the theme to Scooby Doo. Do anything--but DO NOT respond!